Posted by: Dahni | January 24, 2011

New Year’s Dissolutions

Did you make any New Year’s dissolutions this year? Excuse me, I meant resolutions not dissolutions or did I?

Did you, like many others, have just a wee bit too much of  the midnight, the following midday or even an alcohol moment and have already forgotten them? You are not alone. Most of us at some time or another have participated in this phenomenal event. Why so phenomenal? This is partly due to the fact that so many regularly engage in this practice or ritual, at least once a year. There is nothing wrong with wanting more, to do more or to become more. There is nothing wrong with desiring to excel. It is in our nature to want to succeed. But combining the numbers of people so engaged, along with the few that ever realize these resolutions, that’s a phenomenon.

First off, if something is resolved or resolute or it’s a resolution, how could these ever become dissolved,  dissolute or dissolutions?

I believe deep down, most of us know the answer, but leave it to psychology and psychologists to come to our rescue. And they study this, often with federal, state, and local grants (our money) to basically explain what we already know. If something is not working, it’s just not working right? Do we really need to know why it not working or should we just stop doing it?

Well psychology, has decided to call this a syndrome and stamp it with its own special name. Please do not misunderstand, psychologists at least have the legal right to counsel you while trying to figure out their own phobias and their own psyches. But when something gets a label from professionals, it kind of takes the responsibility off of us and places it upon the syndrome. Like a disease, it’s not our fault. But anyway, psychology calls our New Year’s dissolutions: ‘The False Hope Syndrome.’ *

According to psychological years of study and research, many people repeat this practice every year with often the exact same resolutions (dissolutions).  Now why would anyone need to do that year after year if last year, they received what they were resolved to accomplish the previous New Year’s Eve or New Year’s Day?

Some may think of this merely as a definition of insanity, doing the same thing over and over again, but expecting a different result. I’m sure I’m not insane and quite confident that most of us are not.

We want we want and we need what we need. There is nothing wrong with that. Hope is for something that we want or need, but is not presently available. There is nothing ‘false’ about that.

We are not sick or insane. We do not have false hopes. We are not foolish, stupid or weak! What then is the problem?

* As many as 90 percent of attempts at change fail, yet New Year’s resolvers are undeterred. In a 2002 report in the journal American Psychologist, University of Toronto researcher Janet Polivy and a colleague came up with a name for this “cycle of failure and renewed effort”: the False Hope syndrome.”

Others have suggested that before the end of the first quarter of a new year, most of our New Year’s resolutions have dissolved. Then our same lists become next year’s lists.

The answer is quite obvious. All we need is a way to get what we want and need. We need a map. Like gears, we need something that just works. We need a PLAN!

After all, a PLAN is how our homes and places where we live were built.  So if you need a plan, I just might have what you are looking for. If not, isn’t it worth resolving to just find out what it is? Ask me.

Just I-Magine,

Dahni


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